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What is with everyone expecting you to be in a relationship in your 20s? I feel like that’s the first question new people that I meet ask me, followed by a pensive look that can only be translated into ‘I wonder what’s wrong with her’. But why? Is a twenty something year old not allowed to be fun, attractive, and single? Why is that so hard to believe? So yes world, yes I am a twenty something year old and I am single and as a matter of fact I am loving it. So, here are just a few reasons you should be loving the single life in your twenties.
1) Having the ability to selfishly transition into whatever kind of life you want for yourself. As a twenty something year old you are most likely going through some sort of transitional phase in your life. Just finishing college, just getting your first “real” job, just beginning to stand on your own two feet; whatever the transition may be this is the time in your life when you should be concentrating on what you truly want. Where do you want to live? What do you want to do? How exactly do you want to introduce yourself to this grand old world? Certainly, you want to make a name for yourself, dazzle the hell out of every one you meet, take the world by storm. When you have to add another person’s life into the equation you lose the ability to whole-heartedly decide what is best for you, and as you’re just beginning to lay the ground work to a life well lived, that would simply be a shame.
2) Because ‘Young, Wild, and [hold on let me see if my boyfriend is] Free!’ just doesn’t have the same ring to it. Never will you ever again have this kind of freedom in your hands. Take advantage of it! You’re finally free to do what you want without having to answer to any kind of authority. Why give that up so easily? As a single twenty something year old if you want to take a weekend drive down to Vegas, over to San Diego, up to New York there is absolutely no one to get in your way. You don’t have to worry about what your boyfriend will think if some guy wants to buy you a drink at Marquee, you don’t have to worry about what your girlfriend will think if you find a conversation with a girl at the empire state building interesting enough to add her on Facebook when you get home. Not to mention, you don’t have to worry about what anyone will think if you decide to lock lips with that sexy little thing down by the pier who “accidentally” knocked the volley ball into your neck of the beach and insists on making up for it via drinks at Blind Lady.
3) Single people have more fun. I know, I know, it’s exactly the opposite of what society wants us to think. Especially during the season of snuggling. But honestly, as a single twenty something year old you’re more likely to take advantage of the crazy fun stuff life has to offer. Now don’t get me wrong I love my relationship bound friends, but getting together with Lisa and talking about how sweet it was for Ryan to have filled up her gas tank last week because she was oh so stressed out about finals just doesn’t have the living life in the fast lane excitement that getting together with Alex and planning our girls trip to Mardi Gras does.
4) Networking. At first glance I know, you’re asking yourself: “what does networking have to do with my relationship status?” Directly – possibly nothing, but availability has everything to do with networking. Let’s face it, you simply don’t have as much free time to network and build possible life changing connections with new people when you’re constantly concentrating on (rightfully) spending a little QT with the S/O. In a world that has truly come to revolve around the mantra ‘it’s not who you are but who you know’ there is just no sense in rushing into to schedulely conflicted world of the “we people” if not absolutely positive that the person is worth the sacrifice.
5) Last but not least. There is nothing sexy about desperation. Honestly, quit complaining about being single. If you’re 20 something and you’re single I want you try this: get up out of your computer chair pop on some sneakers and LIVE.IT.UP! Go out and paint the town world red! Find a hobby, or four. Concentrate on getting further in your career, or even just getting a career. Whatever you do though take it from Rizzo – do not stay home every night waiting around for mister (or miss) right. When you learn to love the life you’re living you automatically earn at least 100 sexy points. When you learn to be comfortable with yourself and thrive on your independence you automatically gain at least 1000 sexy points. Not to mention that those hobbies you’ve picked up, the people you’ve networked with, the places you’ve gone, and the experiences you’ve had – those are going to turn into ammo for cupid’s little bow of love.
So, when you suddenly and unexpectedly fall for the person you’re willing to share this amazing life that you’ve built for yourself with they will fall deeply, nay, madly in love with the kick ass person your epic life has turned you into. Just do us all a favor in the meantime (yourself included), and quit stressing about it. Appreciate the time you’ve been given. You’re just getting through the first fourth of your life, why rush things? Wouldn’t you rather soak in the here and now? You’ll never again be more independent than you are right now. Enjoy it.